Dating Tip for Men – Do You Fear Rejection?

To Fear or Not To Fear, That is the Question.
What is the Number 1 Factor that keeps Men from dating more women?

#1. Not enough money.
#2. Not Enough Hair.
#3. Too Fat or Skinny.
#4. I’m an unemployed 37 year old lazy bastard that still lives with my parents.

Answer.. None of the Above. I would say that #4 could put a damper on your situation. The major factor that keeps men from dating more women is the FEAR OF REJECTION! Some guys just freeze up and won’t approach a girl because they don’t want to be rejected. The pain of rejection far outweighs the benefit of meeting a great girl. I don’t know anyone that likes being rejected. There is a hot girl with a smoking body, you get the courage to ask her out and out of nowhere she looks at you like you are a peasant, she flips you the bird and tells you to “Fuck off”. Who in there right mind likes that?
To help get over the fear of rejection, here is a fun exercise that I recommend you do.

I call it the “Perfect Exercise”.

I want you to think about how it would benefit you to get rejected and how it will benefit you if you get a date with a girl that you want to approach.
Here goes.
If she rejects me, gives me the middle finger and tells me to fuck off, it would benefit me because maybe she is an idiot in real life and if I dated her I would be miserable. Maybe she ends up being boring and then I’ll have to break up with her. Maybe she’ll turn me into a pussy whipped fool and I’ll spend my life sucking up to her and being ridiculed by my friends and family. Maybe she’ll steal my money and use it to take a vacation with a guy named “Serge”. Maybe she is incapable of pleasuring me and I’ll end up spending all my money on cheap drunk hookers that have bad hygiene. You see how perfect it is that she rejected you.. Aren’t you glad she said no.

Now let’s see the perfection in her saying yes. You meet the girl of your dreams, she is a great lover, she treats your parents with respect, she inherits a lot of money and has the both of you live in a mansion that is paid for. She has a friend that thinks your cute and wouldn’t mind a little threesome. You get the idea. It’s all perfect.

Get over the fear of rejection by simply believing that any outcome (rejection or not) is a perfect outcome that totally benefits you. This is a great exercise in life and with women. You see for every person out there is a mate. Don’t let the fear of rejection stop you.

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Are You Paralyzed Around Beautiful Women?

Here’s a dumb question.  Have you ever been afraid to approach a woman that you found attractive?  If you said no, then you are a lying sack of shit.  We all, at one time or another, have been afraid to approach a beautiful girl. Nobody wants to look like a fool and no one enjoys a chance to be cut down.  The pain of rejection far outweighs the pleasure of meeting a dynamite girl.  This sucks because the only thing that is holding you back is your fear or to be more specific, your “Approaching Anxiety”.  There are many ways to over come fear but a simple and effective way is…….Wait for it…”Practice”.  Yes, that’s right, I said “Practice”.  “But wait a minute, where or how do I practice approaching girls?”  Well, I am glad you asked.  Let me give you a very easy and fun exercise that will set you on your way to becoming a dating machine.

Today is a good day to start.

Step #1. Detach yourself from any outcome when doing this exercise.  This means don’t have any expectations and don’t try to ask for a phone number or try to get a date.

Step #2. Put yourself into a relaxed state. Be aware of your body language, and your mental attitude.  Be carefree, funny, put a little smirk on your face.  You Da Man!

Step #3.  Here it is….It’s really hard(sarcasm).   Make eye contact, smile  and say ?‘Hi”  to  every girl you meet. Don’t stare, just make eye contact, smile and say hi.  Then keep going about your business.
Meet girls at coffee shops and just be cool.  If you order a coffee from a girl at the counter and she is wearing a name tag, say “Hi” followed by her name.  When you get your order say “Thank you” followed by her name. This will be true for anytime you encounter a female service person that is wearing a name tag.  By the way, you must do this even if the women is old, chubby, has facial hair and has a zit the size of a tennis ball growing out the side of her nose. No women get left behind.

Simple places to meet and greet women are: the mall, clothing stores, women who sit near you, co workers, public transportation, a girl waiting in line ahead of you or in back of you.

The key to this exercise is to detach yourself from any outcome. Have zero expectations and most of all try to have fun.  The more you meet and greet women the easier it will be when it count’s.

Getting over “Approach Anxiety” could take 5 minutes or a lifetime. It is totally in your control.  Make the most of your day by meeting new women.  The sooner you create this ritual as a daily habit, the sooner you will attain your goals.

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Dating Tips for Men – Are You A Confident Stud?

The key to picking up women is not about cheesy pick up lines, it is about how confident you present yourself.  Women are immediately attracted to men who exude confidence and have a high self esteem.
If you want to start a conversation with a girl and you come across as being nervous or fearful, you just made a really bad first impression.  Women like confident and calm men. It’s embedded in their nature. Working on your confidence and self esteem is probably the most important task you can work on to date more women.

Here are 3 tips on how to improve your self confidence.

1.  Relaxation is your secret edge. Learn Relaxation Techniques. It can’t be stressed  enough, the number one approaching tool you need to increase your dating women is your ability to relax. When you are stressed out you project that emotion to everyone around you. Women can pick up your nervousness and will not feel comfortable.  When you are relaxed you slow down, you make better decisions, you are on your game. Women pick up on your confidence and will be attracted to you.  Meditation,  deep breathing exercise, and yoga are great ways to relax.  One added bonus for yoga, 90 percent of all members are women who are trying to better themselves.  Do you think this is a good place to meet women?

2.  Exercise.  It is a great way to build your self esteem.  Weight training, running, playing sports will boost your confidence because your body will be in peak condition.  Exercising on a regular basis releases endorphins and it makes you feel alive and ready for action.

3.  Be aware of your mental and physical state.  When your out with people be aware of how your body posture is and how you feel mentally.  Is your body straight and relaxed?  Are you smiling?  Are you in a mental state that is  positive and alert.  These are traits that are essential to meeting women.  Do you like being around women that are slouched and negative?  Even girls that are considered a level 10 are unattractive if they have lousy attitudes.  Get in the habit of being aware of your body language and your attitude and you will benefit not only with your dating but also with all aspects of your life.

You never have a second chance to make a first impression, so make sure your first impression is one that exudes confidence and a high self worth.  You will find that women love it and you can attain anything you desire.

Photo Source-Cody Love @Twisty’s